How I Stopped Being the Strong Friend That Nobody Checked On
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Hello and welcome to Permission.
ο»ΏToday, I want to share a deeply personal journey with you—how I transitioned from being the strong friend that nobody checked on to someone who embraces self-care and boundaries. This shift not only improved my well-being but also transformed my relationships. I hope my story resonates with you and encourages you to seek the support you deserve.
Taking Responsibility: Changing My Perspective
For a long time, I prided myself on being the strong friend, the one everyone could rely on. But over time, I realized this role came at a cost—I was often left feeling drained and unappreciated. The first step in my transformation was taking responsibility for my own well-being and recognizing that I wasn’t a victim of my circumstances. I stopped seeing myself and others as victims and acknowledged that everyone has the ability to take care of themselves.
Setting Boundaries: Recognizing My Needs
One of the most empowering changes I made was studying, placing, and reinforcing my boundaries based on my needs. I learned to say no without guilt and to prioritize my own well-being. These boundaries were crucial in maintaining my mental and emotional health. They also allowed me to respect others’ abilities to manage their own lives without feeling the need to step in constantly.
Taking Responsibility for My Life
By taking responsibility for what I wanted in life, I proved to myself that other people can do the same. I focused on my goals and aspirations, understanding that my happiness and success were in my hands. This shift in mindset was liberating and empowering. It also helped me see the potential in others to take control of their lives.
Investing in Professional Support
One of the most significant steps in my journey was investing in professional coaching and therapy services. Instead of burdening my friends with my problems, I sought help from experts who provided the guidance and support I needed. This not only lightened the emotional load on my friendships but also encouraged my friends to seek professional help for their own challenges.
Encouraging Professional Help
I cannot emphasize enough the importance of seeking professional help. Whether it’s coaching or therapy, professional support can make a world of difference in preserving your relationships and your mental health. As a coach, I’m here to offer the guidance and tools you need to navigate your challenges and build a fulfilling life. By investing in professional help, you’re taking a crucial step towards self-care and empowerment.
The Permission Program
In my 90-day Permission program, I teach and coach on how to stop being the strong friend that nobody checks on. We cover essential topics like self-awareness, understanding and meeting your needs, setting boundaries, and celebrating our progress and wins. These modules help you cultivate the skills and mindset needed to create a balanced, fulfilling life.
Conclusion
My journey from being the strong friend that nobody checked on to someone who values self-care and boundaries has been transformative. I hope my story inspires you to take responsibility for your well-being and seek the support you deserve. If you’re ready to embark on your own journey of self-discovery and empowerment, I invite you to join the Permission community.
Take the Next Step
If you're ready to prioritize your well-being and transform your relationships, I encourage you to seek professional coaching with me. I have limited spaces available for one-on-one coaching, so if you're interested, sign up for a free introductory call by following the link on my website. Together, we can create a life filled with confidence, connection, and fulfillment.
Warm regards,
Cindy Moore Naughton
Master Life Coach
