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How Clear Values and Principles Protect Me from Self-Abandonment

Cindy Naughton • July 22, 2024

When you know better, you do better!

Within the past several years, I've discovered the profound impact of having clear values and principles on preventing self-abandonment and fostering confident decision-making. This realization is deeply rooted in personal experience, especially when it comes to navigating relationships.


Navigating Relationships with Values and Needs

Picture this: for years, I stumbled through relationships (and friendships) without a clear understanding of my own values. I found myself repeatedly drawn to partners who didn't align with what truly mattered to me. The allure of these relationships often masked deeper issues, leading to cycles of emotional turmoil and disillusionment.


One pivotal moment stands out—a relationship where I felt increasingly unfulfilled, yet unable to pinpoint why. It wasn't until I began my journey of self-discovery through coaching that the mystery started to unravel. With the guidance of professionals, I learned to identify and prioritize my core values. This newfound clarity empowered me to break free from damaging patterns and make choices that honored my true self and worth.


The Drama Unfolds: A Personal Revelation

Amidst the emotional rollercoaster of conflicting values and grossly unmet needs, I realized the power of knowing oneself intimately. Each relationship served as a lesson, highlighting the importance of aligning my choices with what truly resonated within me. By acknowledging my values, I gained the strength to walk away from relationships that no longer served my growth, despite the initial heartache.


How Values Shape Your Life

Understanding your values isn't just about making better decisions—it's about reclaiming your authenticity. When you honor your values, you cultivate a sense of self-respect and confidence that permeates every aspect of your life. This journey is central to the Permission program, which guides individuals through assessments and reflections to uncover their unique values and needs.


Embracing Authenticity with the Permission Program

The Permission program begins with foundational modules designed to deepen your understanding of values and needs:


  1. Permission to Be a Beginner: We start with assessments to uncover your values and examine how these influence your decisions and perceptions.
  2. Permission to Need What You Need: This module focuses on self-assessment and acceptance, helping you recognize and articulate your needs clearly. By exploring past experiences and beliefs, you gain clarity on patterns that either support or hinder your growth.


Take Charge of Your Narrative

By exploring your values and needs, you reclaim the reins of your life's narrative. The Permission program equips you with practical tools and emotional insights to navigate relationships authentically and confidently. If you're ready to embark on a transformative journey towards self-discovery and empowerment, explore the Permission program today and rewrite your story with clarity and purpose.


Cindy Moore Naughton

Master Life Coach


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